This is not another post about relationships don’t worry.
But in a way it is about relationships.
I hope you get the message of the post as you read along.
There are times in life when you feel like you can do anything and everything. It seems like because of the circumstances around, you need to get involved in some projects. I totally understand .
The thing is we are not machines. No matter how we think we can do anything and be anything, we can’t!
Forget what you hear on TV. You can’t do it all. You can’t have it all
I always thought I could do so much. I will tell myself I am still young and I shouldn’t be wasting any time so I would get involved in different projects and activities. In my head, I will tell myself I was gaining experience and trying to earn extra cash. The truth is, a lot of these projects were not yielding anything. Instead, I would have spent so much time working on a lot of things with nothing to show for it. There will be no money in the bank and there will be lots of strained friendships. I realised I wasn’t giving my best at the office and at these other projects. I realised I was fighting with my friends because I wasn’t meeting their expectations. I realised that no matter how hard I tried to convince myself that I could do it all… I really couldn’t.
So I did what I should have done a long time ago. I made the decision that I knew was the right one. I walked away.
It hasn’t been a very easy process but it has been worth it. Slowly, I am making out time for myself; to do the things I love and build myself. I have come to understand that if I die right now, life will go on and these projects that I am concerned about will thrive without me.
I want to encourage you to focus on the things that matter and build yourself. If you have made any commitments that you know you cannot handle, do not be ashamed to walk away. If you do it halfheartedly, you won’t get good results and if you don’t get good results, it will put a strain in the relationship and when there is a strain, there is bad blood and with bad blood comes enmity… I could go on.
Life is short. Focus on your craft. Word hard at it. ONLY MAKE COMMITMENTS YOU CAN KEEP (No matter how much you are being offered). When you can’t handle it, don’t be ashamed, just walk away.
PS: This post is for people like me. Those who love to jump on different projects free of charge without thinking about the consequences. If you have been paid, be ready to refund the money 🙂
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