Letting friendships go can be really hard. A lot of times you find yourself second guessing the decision. You wonder if you are being petty and if you should be the “bigger person” in the entire situation and work things out. If you are a Christian you wonder if God will be happy with you.
Do not be afraid to let go.
Now I am not asking you to cut off your friends after every disagreement but if you get to a point where you have to ask yourself if the friendship was worth it, then you probably know what you need to do. Truth is, every relationship in your life might not last forever. Some will and some won’t. It is totally fine. The problem with a lot of people is they keep holding on to relationships that have expired long ago. As you get older, you will start to realise that while you might evolve, others might not. This can lead to constant friction and in the end, can end up ruining the whole relationship altogether.
So here is what you can do. When you notice things are getting tense and difficult take a step back and evaluate the relationship. Are you guys on the same wavelength? Do you spend all your time arguing over irrelevant issues? Is the relationship draining you physically or emotionally? Asking yourselves these questions will help you decide on what to do.
Letting go is hard but sometimes it is important for your state of mind. The fact that you have let go does not mean you do not care about them. It only means that right now you are focusing on what’s best for you because, in the end, you can only love your neighbour as yourself.
Do not be afraid to let it go.
“It’s very possible and very okay to forgive someone and still not want to spend time with them”
― Karen Salmansohn