On Being Mary Jane… the Adulterous Black Lady

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Hehehe… That title sounds a bit too harsh and judgmental yeah???

I know. And I am kidding.

It was just meant to draw your attention to the post. That’s all. (Before y’all crucify me)

“Forty-two percent of African-American women have never been married. … This is one black woman’s story, [and it’s] not meant to represent all black women.”

That was the disclaimer that viewers saw when BET debuted the first episode of Being Mary Jane. A new drama created by Mara Brock Akil (She is amazing and created Girlfriends and The Game) and stars Gabrielle Union as Mary Jane . It shows Mary Jane in her element, balancing her life as a TV personality and her family drama. Mary Jane is one of the few leading black characters in a TV show in America which is a good thing because a lot of black women need to see characters that they can relate with.

As I watch the series week after week though, I am confronted with the same question; “is this a good representation?”

I am not saying the writers are not doing a good job with the character and all. I get no one is exactly perfect and that human beings are complex. I get that the writers have put a disclaimer saying this character is not a representation of the average black woman and this is one woman’s story. Still, it won’t hurt to have a black woman who is not sleeping with a married man on TV. I mean Tika Sumpter’s character is sleeping with a married man in “The Haves and the Haves Not” and Kerry Washington‘s character is sleeping with a married man in “Scandal”. Don’t get me wrong, I am not hating on those shows (I mean I am a big Scandal fan) but for a character like Mary Jane, she is closer to home than most black female characters on TV.  A lot of successful black women always have to take care of their families and make sure they stay ahead in their careers. It is a known fact and it makes Mary Jane accessible to the viewers. Still I don’t think her character needs to be with a married man to show that she is “complex” and “imperfect”.

Personally I feel a woman doesn’t need a man to make her feel whole.  I feel marriage is a partnership and a choice. Mara Brock Akil’s Girlfriends showed four complex characters who were all looking for love. They made choices; some good, some bad without losing their individuality.

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I love the show. I won’t deny. I like Mary Jane’s character because it is close to home and very familiar. It is unlike Scandal were Olivia Pope’s life is not very relatable. I like the fact that Mary Jane cares about her family and that she loves to hangout with her friends. I love the fact that she is not named Laquisha and is always rolling her neck and snapping her fingers. I love that she is insecure and worries about her future and will fight to keep her job. I know she didn’t always know the guy was married but still I would have loved to see her end it with him, get depressed for a few episodes, meet another guy date him for a bit and maybe go back to the guy after he does the honourable thing and leaves his wife.

I am not trying to be judgmental here. I just feel a lot can be done to the character. She don’t have to be perfect. She just shouldn’t be sleeping with another woman’s husband.

That is all.

PS: I am still watching 😀 The show is GOOD!

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